Libby has been more than a coach to me. A friend, an encourager, a knowledgeable teacher, a wise counsellor, and just another honest loving human doing this thing called 'life'.
The Lightning Process experience has taught me invaluable tools about how to deal with worrying and overthinking. What Libby has taught me has given me a new perspective with how I see life and the ups and downs we all go through.
I'm so grateful to have had this life changing coaching. Thanks Libby, you're amazing!
I learned the tools to improve life in every aspect; I lost weight, I got better at sport, I got better at waking up in the morning. I'm more confident and I've accomplished huge progress with my business. In the big picture, I can say I'm living a fulfilling life and have experienced true thankfulness.
Taking the seminar isn't like a magic switch that fixes everything in your life (although it feels like it at the time). It takes commitment and work on your part. Nine months later, I'm still working on things and using the tools, but I see life through a new lens, and I am very well equipped to be the best version of me with continual improvement.
Working with Libby is a real treat, no matter who you are - whether you like talking or prefer to keep to yourself. Libby is so easy to talk to about anything. You get a friendly, comfortable, constructive and understanding friend who supports you throughout the process.
"Since completing the Lighting Process I no longer feel like a victim tossed around by anxiety and depression or the challenging circumstances of life." (Female, 30 yrs)
Before attending the Lightning Process I struggled with anxiety and depression. This greatly affected every area of my life including my relationships with family and friends, work and my spirituality. I felt I didn't have the capacity to invest in relationships with others or make a difference in other people's lives - something that was so important to me. I believed depression and anxiety were in my genes, and I felt powerless in the face of my "mental illnesses".
When I started the Lightning Process I realised that much of what I believed was so wrong, and not life enhancing! I was able to challenge core beliefs about myself and gain a fresh new perspective of who I was and my potential. I started to understand that if I was able to do anxiety and depression so well then I also had all the resources and potential I needed to do other states well such as joy, peace or love - what I really wanted!
Since completing the Lighting Process I no longer feel like a victim tossed around by anxiety and depression or the challenging circumstances of life. I now can simply put the process into practice and achieve the results I want; be the person I desire to be within whatever circumstances life gives me! I can now look outside of myself and am more able to connect with others and make a difference in their lives.
The Lightning Process enables you to have a choice. You have all the resources you need within you to make the right choice. Now I choose life!
I would highly recommend Libby as a trainer. She is compassionate and has a refreshing perspective. I found that Libby had an ability to really identify the root of the problem such as certain beliefs or patterns, that you may not even realise you have yourself! She then enables you to come up with your own solutions while also offering wise direction.
Thanks so much to Libby and Phil Parker for helping to give me the tools I need to live the life I love!
"When I looked ahead at my life, living with fatigue and continuing to muster strength to deal with depression, I simply couldn’t imagine being happy. It felt like a reduced life." (Female, 27 yrs)
Despite doing everything I could to get better and beat a chronic fatigue syndrome diagnosis I eventually admitted defeat. I couldn’t cope with full time work. I needed more sleep and work was making me feel worse. Something was wrong, but no amount of will power, vegetables, vitamins, meditations, medications or sweaty lunchtime saunas seemed to help.
A friend had mentioned the Lightning Process to me a while before. She had seen a close friend of hers go from a state worse than mine to achieving a full recovery. Another mutual friend described going through a Neural Linguistic Programming course with similar results. I was skeptical because the issue, to me, was a physical one and my mind was fed up with my body for not getting on board.
The first opportunity I had to move forward was in my initial conversation with Libby. I had reached out to a few Lightning Process coaches in New Zealand after finally reading Phil Parker’s book on it. Libby asked if I had considered that ‘my story’ could equally offer a tale of healing just as much as it detailed my fatigue, anxiety and depression? This seemingly simple question stopped me in my tracks and put everything into perspective. When I looked ahead at my life, living with fatigue and continuing to muster strength to deal with anxiety and depression, I simply couldn’t imagine being happy. It felt like a reduced life. And when I imagined living without those issues it felt like being shot out of a cannon! I had no idea what it would look like, but it seemed like a better chance of being happy. I know that might seem obvious from the outside, but when you’re so used to something it’s destabilising to consider removing it.
What became clearer in talking with Libby and in the moments after our chat was that I was being asked to trust there was a way to concretely change my LIFE, not just remove my physical issues. With a sliver of trust in the unknown I signed up, thankfully was accepted, and stepped through Libby’s front door soon after that first conversation.
Over the next three days I felt like I was learning to walk again. This wasn’t simply a coat of fresh paint on old boards, I was being challenged to rewrite all of my assumptions, stop my current habits and form completely new pathways forward. And the process wasn’t focused on fatigue, anxiety or depression – it was focused on wellbeing. There were tears and fears, but there was also a growing emotional and mental freedom that put no issue beyond reach.
I had many positive turning points using my new tools over the following weeks and months. And once we had completed the post-workshop coaching, I enlisted Libby’s expertise through additional coaching for several months. I experienced further growth in leaps and bounds! Her ability to truly listen and her personal embodiment of the Lightning Process meant that she picked up on my habits of speech that pointed to unhelpful mental habits. In some sessions my unconscious beliefs or values were unearthed and acknowledged through her considerate questioning. This led to further growth and personal insight that rewrote some of my life’s hardest moments. With wisdom and experience Libby would at times challenge how I positioned my frustrations or disappointments to avoid old habits reforming. As an encouraging and wise coach there was never a time where I felt our sessions were unnecessary, repetitive or overkill.
Actively using the Lightning Process I’ve been experiencing personal growth and expression again. The first thing I noticed was laughter. I didn’t think of my life as being without humor, but I’ve started laughing out loud far more, smiling and rediscovering joyful memories I had long forgotten, which is nothing short of precious. I’m far more present, barely anxious or depressed, which means rediscovering what it feels like to simply be nervous or even just fine. Both personally and professionally I have learnt to communicate more effectively and show up with more confidence and ease. The Lightning Process continually gives me a framework that enlightens my perspective of self, others and the situations I find myself in.
I purposely didn’t want to give Libby a testimonial until enough time had passed for me to be sure I wasn’t imagining the difference the course and her coaching had made (sorry Libby!) Over one year on now, I still can’t believe it yet I know it to be true. After about eight months, I said to Libby that I felt like I did when I was in my early twenties! This experience has meant that I get to feel that exciting optimism and hope again. It has renewed my life.
After struggling with what I was told was hemiplegic migraines for years, they gradually got worse and the symptoms increase, to a point where one bad episode just never went away.
I had seen multiple doctors and specialists who had told me I was suffering with chronic migraines that may never go away, and that the only solution was a cocktail of medications that may not work and would leave me with a multitude of side effects. Hearing it may not get better was a huge hit, my mental health fell into a downward spiral pit of anxiety, I felt completely out of control and helpless.
When I first contacted Libby, I had doubts about my own ability to overcome my struggles. However, after our first phone conversation I was blown away with her belief and confidence in not only the process, but that I had the ability to take back power over my health both mentally and physically. She provided me with a new found hope and motivation to make a change.
Libby’s skills, knowledge, intuition is so empowering. She encouraged me to confront deep-seated negative perceptions and beliefs, some of which I had not even noticed in myself. Doing so in such a caring, encouraging and supportive manner that there was never any sense of blame. Instead of focusing on the problem, and highlighting the ‘pain’, which was the focus of so many medical professions. Libby and the Lightning Process encourage me to focus on what I want to feel, looking forward to the positive rather than back to the negative. Learning all about how the mind works and how it processes things like pain, made everything click and make sense. I was able to recognise all the unconscious habits, or thoughts I was doing that were ‘non-life enhancing’ and was amazed at the power I had to change them.
By the third day of the course, my headache had almost completely disappeared, I felt energised and clear headed, more than I had felt in months! Libby gave me tools to retrain my brain and harness control of my mental and physical health. The most empowering thing about the lightning process was that the techniques I learnt were not just strategies to overcome one problem, but were tools I can use to enhance every aspect of my life now and in the future.
Completing the Lightning Process in Hamilton, away from home in Wellington was the best decision ever! It was incredibly powerful to leave home feeling terrible and to return completely refreshed and revived. I found I was able to retreat and completely immerse myself in the process without the distractions of my everyday life. I couldn’t recommend Libby, the Lightning Process and a trip to Hamilton more!!
11 months on, and my life has improved dramatically, I am more productive than ever in my work and University studies, I am energised and present in my day to day life. Overall, I have seen a dramatic reduction in migraines and perpetual headaches and have realised that I was contributing to it through the way I approached my life. I have taken back control rather than feeling like a victim. I feel clear-headed, and notice when I slip into bad habits which contribute to migraines and bounce back significantly quicker now.
The Lightning Process exceeded all my expectations. It was completely life-changing! The power of the mind is unlimited!
I'd tried to overcome my fears by working with a counsellor who specialised in anxiety. That helped me identify things that had led me to becoming an anxious person, and those insights did reduce some of the symptoms I had at that time. But I wasn't sure how to really change my thinking.
When I was introduced to Libby, I hoped she would give me some practical tools to turn my negative thinking around. But even taking that step felt risky. Would I learn enough to make a real difference? What if the things I gained from her didn’t help? These were the doubts that filled my head at the time.
Most of those doubts melted in our first session. You realise very quickly that Libby’s confidence and happiness comes from a place of competence. And she's really easy to talk to.
I was also impressed that she didn't settle for easy answers. At the time it felt a little uncomfortable, but that made me work harder, to think for myself and be more creative in coming to better conclusions. I think I had learned to be a bit lazy in my thinking patterns.
How did life change?
Libby gave me the tools to retrain my own mind. I no longer take on other people’s emotions or think that I'm responsible to carry their burdens when they’re not mine to bear. I’ve also left behind a lot of anger and cynicism.
Now I feel confident in who I am. My emotions are balanced and I’m a much better mum, able to parent my kids with confidence and positivity. And I can now do things that I have always wanted to do but shied away from due to fear. Like public speaking!
Am I happier? Absolutely! My confidence is up, which allows me to take responsibility for who I am and what I do. If I knew someone who needed to shift their thinking, I would definitely direct them to Libby.
"I didn't want to leave the house or have to talk to anyone. Some days it was a real struggle to pull myself together and go to work. I would bury my head in a pillow and just cry." (Female, 48 yrs)
I was struggling emotionally and physically, finding it challenging just to do my day. My weight had been a problem as long as I can remember. I was very self-conscious of my size and it had become painful to move.
I'd tried numerous weight-loss programs over the years. Almost always, the initial results were positive, and I could see and feel the progress. Then I would put all the weight back on. I can’t tell you how devasting it was to see that pattern repeat over time. It left me so frustrated, hopeless and disappointed with myself.
Over time, I became tired and withdrawn; I didn't want to leave the house or have to talk to anyone. Some days it was even a struggle to pull myself together to go to work. I had mornings when, after the rest of the family had left, I would curl up, bury my head in a pillow and just cry. All I wanted was to pull the curtains and stay in the dark. I couldn’t face the day.
To make things worse, I didn’t understand why I was in this state. On the surface, life was good; I should have been happy. I wasn’t. I was depressed, and I now realise that I had been in that dark space for eight months. After being diagnosed with depression, I was advised to see a psychiatrist.
But I chose to follow a different path and see Libby instead. I wanted to address my overall wellness as a whole - the physical and the emotional.
When I approached her for help, I had serious doubts about my own ability to overcome my challenges. And I was anxious. It’s not easy to be totally honest with yourself let alone expose your inner thoughts and feelings to another person.
I needn’t have worried.
Libby works with skill, insight and ability. She's confident and capable, caring and encouraging. She's able to drill down to the core concerns where the real problems lie. Dealing with historical beliefs can be painful, but with her, there was no sense of blame. Instead, she helped me to properly understand myself and her coaching gave me the tools I needed to become a stronger version of my current self.
I was surprised at how quickly I could see changes in myself. I've become far more active and my joints are not as painful as they were. I’ve lost weight and even the eczema rash that I have had for 20 years has gone! As my confidence has increased, all of my relationships have improved, and opportunities have opened up to me professionally.
Not only have I gained things with Libby’s help, I’ve also left bad things behind. My negativity and self-doubt have gone. So have the feelings of frustration and hopelessness. In their place I now believe that I can do whatever I put my mind to!
I look forward to tomorrow again.
Coaching with Libby has been incredibly effective and I've found it an amazing, positive experience. I want to thank her for the work we've done, for the tools and insights she's given me and for the positive impact she's had on my life. I am stronger and more assertive, yet more gentler than I've ever been.
"Before coming to Libby, I had no idea what was causing my problems. I honestly thought others had the issue, not me. I couldn’t have been more wrong." (Male, 43 yrs)
Libby helped me in the biggest way possible. She gave me the ability to see what lay behind my negative behaviours, which for me actually went right back to my childhood. I hadn’t realised how my inner thoughts were affecting my outward attitudes and actions, which in turn were impacting how others perceived me. This affected all aspects of my life; both work and personal relationships.
I didn't expect someone so intuitive and understanding. In the very first session, Libby shifted deep-seated and lifelong perceptions and emotions. She showed me how profoundly I could change and how, with the right tools, I could heal from a lifetime of hurt.
The transformation was profound and took me completely by surprise.
The benefits have been huge. I've learned to trust and connect with people far more than ever. It has strengthened my relationships at work and at home, and my loved ones have noticed significant changes. I now function better on an emotional level and can deal with daily situations better.
Libby turned my life around. She gave me the tools and understanding I desperately needed to get free of the pain and turmoil. I am eternally grateful to her. If you are in anguish or despair, I would absolutely recommend her, without hesitation!
"After a minor adenoidectomy and grommet surgery, our son Michael reacted unusually during recovery. Within 48 hours he was given a wheelchair and no diagnosis." (Boy, 8 years)
After a minor adenoidectomy and grommet surgery, our son Michael reacted unusually during recovery. In the first 24 hours post-surgery, he experienced increasingly severe lower-limb pain and loss of function. Within 48 hours he was given a wheelchair and no diagnosis.
Over the following 12 days a full suite of tests was performed with no consensus being reached as to the cause of his symptoms. Things were getting progressively worse. We began planning for a life with a child permanently wheelchair-bound.
I knew Libby and of her experience in personal coaching and ‘brain training’, so I approached her with Michael’s situation. When she suggested that she could talk with Michael I was open to the idea, although I made it clear that I was sceptical of what I perceived to be pseudo-scientific, eastern religious practices.
These fears were alleviated as I sat in with Michael during the consultation with Libby.
She was very pragmatic and reassuring in her manner and explained what was going to happen before the formal exercises began. The treatment consisted of a personalised guided visualisation process. I had experienced something similar when studying sport psychology and in learning complex physical tasks. Consequently, I was aware that the practice related to cognitive training rather than anything mystic.
At the end of the one-hour consultation, our son stood almost entirely unaided for the first time in nearly two weeks. In the hour that followed, he left his wheelchair and began using a walking frame, which he quickly discarded as he started to walk independently.
Michael had one more dose of pain killers approximately eight hours later, but apart from that, has been completely restored to full health.
I was very impressed with Libby and her approach; clearly the results speak for themselves. She took my personal beliefs and concerns seriously and did not minimise them. We couldn’t have asked for anything more! I wholeheartedly recommend her.
"Before coming to Libby, I was a heavy smoker and had been for 40 years. At one stage in my life, it was normal for me to get through 60 cigarettes a day. It was killing me." (Male, 60 yrs)
After 8 heart attacks I finally got to a point in my life where I had to give up smoking.
Before I met Libby I had tried to quit smoking plenty of times. I went cold turkey six times, tried gum, patches, pills, even hypnotism. Nothing worked.
Even though I knew what smoking was doing to me, and how likely it was the next heart attack would kill me, I truly believed I could not rid myself of this addiction; that I couldn’t quit. I had given up on life.
Libby asked me if I was serious about quitting and said she could help. She displayed such a calm confidence in her own abilities, I actually believed her! I just knew that if anyone could help me, it was this knowledgeable, well-considered woman. That said, I was deeply afraid of failing. This was my last chance and I knew it.
As I worked with Libby, it became clear that I was not just an exercise. She actually cared. I also discovered that she is far more skilled than I first believed. In spite of my long history of failure, she quickly convinced me that I could stop smoking, and that is quite something!
Libby gave me the real-world tools to beat this addiction, tools that I still use today. One thing I found liberating was the understanding that this addiction was in my mind, and that my mind could be reshaped and strengthened just like a muscle. This single concept gave me a sense of control that I hadn’t felt for a long, long time.
The results? I've stopped smoking! I'm healthier and I'm more financially secure because of it. My whole outlook on life has changed. I used to think that my life span would be short and that nothing I did could change that. That suffocating sense of powerlessness is gone now. Libby has shown me that with the right mental tools, I can overcome any addiction and control my life and the outcomes.
I’m enjoying life again and I wake up looking forward to the future. Libby, you are the Liberator! Thank you!
Life gets messy for most of us and it is hard to make change on your own. Knowing the value of working with a skilled, professional coaching practitioner, I am very selective about who I ask for help.
Libby was my first choice.
She is insightful, present and compassionate, with a tremendous range of practical coaching tools that she uses to great effect. Purposeful yet unhurried, Libby takes you through awareness and understanding and leads you to insight.
The ‘aha’ moments continue on reflection after each session, deepening awareness through application.
If you are looking for specialist coaching that really works, make time to see Libby.
